"I'm single because I was born that way" (Mae West)
Being single is not the end of the world. Many will be alone at some point in their lives. This can be a conscious choice, but also due to the death of a partner, a breakup, a divorce, and so on. Besides, you can live alone, even with children.
However, our society still puts too much emphasis on finding a (new) partner. Some think it’s the only way to be happy and successful. But all those romantic stories that we are constantly bombarded with can be stifling. Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting to find someone and settle down with, but why expect this from everyone?
Being single can also be a choice, and not a lack of options. A choice to refuse to let a relationship status define your life, a choice to love yourself, a choice to live the way you want. And to be honest: staying single made me fall in love with my freedom.
"Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"(Oscar Wilde)
Anyone who has ever been single has been asked this question before. "Haven’t found a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?" Everyone seems to want to set you up with someone. But do we really need someone else to be happy? A relationship is not a goal in life. It is a part of life (if you want it to be, that is).
It's not that I don't want or need people in my life. It's not that I'm against relationships... I just like being single. And that doesn't make me an alien. Quite the contrary.
I don't want my happiness to depend on anyone. People often look for relationships just because everyone seems to want one. Just remember that being alone is better than being with the wrong person. Sometimes, those who fly solo have the strongest wings.
Of course, being on your own can sometimes make you feel lonely and depressed. But if you really want to be a happy single, quit seeing the single life as the tedious period between two relationships, and embrace it. Instead of focusing on what you are missing, focus on what you have, which is yourself.
Being alone allows you to focus on your life, find out who you really are and where your needs lie. It can also give you some perspective. You may discover that other things in life make you happy, besides spending time with people. It can give you opportunities to be more self-aware and introspective, while also allowing you to explore your interests without interference from others. Rather than making you weaker, it makes you much stronger.
In short, being single can be just as fulfilling as having a partner, if you know and love yourself the way you are.
"I like being single, I'm always there for me"
Why compare singletons to people in relationships ? It’s like comparing apples and oranges. The situation is not the same at all. Singletons are made to feel that they are missing something. But what exactly? Companionship, a good conversation, sex, a hug...? What matters most in the single life is that you are on your own financially. And that is not always easy. The rest is often nothing but an illusion created by society.
Love yourself first, because you are the one you will spend the rest of your life with. Don't be afraid to walk alone and above all, don't be afraid to enjoy it.
